Resources - Dating Couples

Evidenece-based
Evidence-based counselling and psychotherapy that works for you.
Carl Jung
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. "
- Carl Jung
Ashleigh Warner
"Beneath every behaviour there is a feeling. Beneath every feeling there is a need. When we meet that need rather than focus on the behaviour, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom."
- Ashleigh Warner
Stephen Covey
“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”
- Stephen Covey
Greg Smalley (Marriage)
"Make it your goal to create a marriage that feels like the safest place on earth."
- Greg Smalley
Sue Johnson
"Being the 'best you can be' is really only possible when you are deeply connected to another."
- Sue Johnson (EFT)
Gabor Maté (CT)
"The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma or emotional loss is not the immediate pain they inflict but the long-term distortions they induce in the way a developing child will continue to interpret the world and her situation in it."
- Gabor Maté
Sue Johnson (EFT)
"We do not just heal the relationship, we create a relationship that heals"
- Sue Johnson (EFT)
Gabor Maté (Change)
“No one can change the past, but everyone can change the future."
- Gabor Maté
John Gottman
“We repeat what we don’t repair.”
- John Gottman
Socrates
“The secret of change is to focus your energy on building the new, not fighting the old.”
- Socrates
Rick Warren
"When life on earth is ending ... What we want around us is people - people we love and have relationships with."
- Rick Warren
Viktor Frankl
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."
- Viktor Frankl
Albert Einstein
"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."
- Albert Einstein
Abraham Lincoln
"The best way to predict your future is to create it."
- Abraham Lincoln
Andrea Brandt
"Without feelings, decision-making is almost impossible. How we feel drives our choices."
- Andrea Brandt
Erica Jong
"And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more."
- Erica Jong
Abraham Lincoln
"It's not about how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up."
- Abraham Lincoln
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Testimonials

Google Review
"Simone & Logan"

"Thanks, Aaron, we could feel the benefits of each couple counselling session, even in our first session. We had done lots of work with different psychologists individually and as a couple prior to our first session, but the work with you feels deeper and different, in a good way. Just by helping us to slow down during the session makes us more aware of our primary emotions."

"Simone & Logan"
“Joel & Amy”

“Aaron is a truly talented psychotherapist and relationship counsellor who cares deeply for his clients. I recommend his services without hesitation. Thanks for taking our marriage from ‘good’ to ‘amazing’ Aaron, we are forever grateful!”

“Joel & Amy”
Christie & Nick

“My husband and I were very fortunate to see you … You (without a doubt in my mind) saved our marriage. Everything is wonderful currently … Eternally grateful. I truly mean every word. Very grateful to you”

“Christie & Nick”
Howard & Amy

"Aaron was very straight forward and honest. Clear about the approach and consistent in helping us change our patterns. The greatest accomplishment through this counselling process is connecting with my partner on an emotional level."

"Howard & Amy"
Catherine & Ronnie

"I couldn't find the words ... Thank you so much for helping us throughout my family problem and obstacles ... not just our marital problems but more particularly to my son ... you're such a truly blessing to him."

"Catherine & Ronnie"
"Maggie & Mason"

"What we gain through the couple counselling process with Alive Counselling was greater insights into family of origins and the sources of [our] emotional pain. Stronger connection to partner."

"Maggie & Mason"
“John & Angela”

“Thank you for the difference you’ve made to the life of our family. We are so blessed to have found you.”

“John & Angela”
Howard & Amy2

"Aaron helped my partner and I reconnect. Not only with each other but within ourselves. Really listening to each other and not just 'doing the angry, dysfunctional dance'. We received lots of practical tips to manage in times of stress."

"Howard & Amy"
"Larry & Suzy"

"Aaron is very patient and level headed ... What we gain through the couple counselling process with Alive Counselling was better awareness of the emotional cycle and triggers with my partner. What was most helpful about the counselling process was slowing the emotional reaction down to get to a calmer position ."

"Larry & Suzy"
"Maggie & Mason"2

"The greatest accomplishment through this couple counselling process, was developing emotional vulnerability and being celebrated for that. What I like about Aaron is his excellent construction of a safe environment. Very educational process."

"Maggie & Mason"
"Jan & Jenny"

“[My partner] and I are doing well. We continue to use your strategies to slow things down ... We have also recommended you to friends of ours.”

"Jan & Jenny"
“Dolly & Daniel”

“We used to think the ’honeymoon phase’ is just the early experience of a relationship that will end, and did not realise it is possible to feel the same ‘honeymoon’ experience again. Through the counselling process, we are so excited that we can connect deeply like we did early in our relationship.”

“Dolly & Daniel”
"Audrey & Brandon"

“[What I gain from the counselling process with Alive Counselling] It reminded me that there is a reason for everyone’s behaviour and to be more conscious and empathetic of that.”

"Audrey & Brandon"
"Audrey & Brandon" 1.5

“[The most helpful part of the counselling process] Insight to where a lot of my characteristics come from and why. Being reminded of what the basic needs of every human is.”

"Audrey & Brandon"
"Audrey & Brandon" 2.5

“[What I like about the way my counsellor works] Was able to bring out a lot of things about myself that I hadn’t realised. I did find counselling helpful and I thank Aaron for his time and advice.”

"Audrey & Brandon"
"Audrey & Brandon"2

“[The benefits or changes I noticed in myself] Being able to label emotions and address them in the moment and being more mindful of my partners emotions.”

"Audrey & Brandon"
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