Feeling worthy is a crucial aspect of mental well-being and self-esteem. When we feel worthy, we are able to approach life with a sense of confidence and self-assurance, which can lead to greater success and happiness. Unfortunately, many people struggle with feelings of worthlessness, which can be a symptom of depression or other mental health conditions. If you are currently experiencing feelings of worthlessness, it is important to seek help from a mental health professional or doctor. They can provide you with support, guidance, and resources to help you manage your feelings and improve your overall well-being. One of the therapy approach that could be helpful is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Practice Self-Compassion
One of the most effective ways to improve feelings of self-worth is to practice self-compassion. This means treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a good friend. EFT emphasises the importance of self-compassion in addressing negative emotions and self-criticism. Through EFT, individuals learn to accept and validate their emotions, and to respond to themselves with compassion and understanding.
Set and Achieve Goals
Setting and achieving goals is another powerful way to improve self-worth. Accomplishing something, no matter how small, can boost self-esteem and make you feel good about yourself. EFT encourages individuals to set realistic and meaningful goals, and to identify and overcome any obstacles that may be preventing them from achieving those goals.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Surrounding yourself with positive people is also important for improving self-worth. Being around people who support and encourage you can help to build your confidence and improve your overall well-being. EFT focuses on building and maintaining healthy relationships that provide emotional support and validation. EFT also helps individuals to identify and express their emotions in a healthy way, which can improve communication and strengthen relationships.
Practice Gratitude
Practicing gratitude is also a powerful way to improve self-worth. When we focus on the things we are thankful for in our lives, it can help shift our perspective and improve our overall well-being. EFT helps individuals to recognise and appreciate the positive aspects of their lives, and to develop a more balanced and realistic view of themselves and their circumstances. This can help to reduce feelings of worthlessness and increase feelings of self-worth.
Self-Care
Finally, self-care is essential for improving self-worth. Take care of yourself physically and emotionally by getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. This can include exercise, meditation, journaling, and spending time with loved ones. EFT encourages individuals to engage in self-care activities that promote well-being and reduce stress. These activities can help to improve mood and reduce feelings of worthlessness.
Conclusion
In conclusion, self-worth is not something that can be given to you by others, it’s something that you build within yourself. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a valuable approach that can help individuals to improve self-worth by learning to accept and validate their emotions, set realistic goals, build and maintain healthy relationships, practice gratitude, and engage in self-care activities. EFT can also help individuals to identify and express emotions in a healthy way, which can improve communication and strengthen relationships. Remember that the journey of improving self-worth takes time and effort, but with the right tools and support, it is possible to improve your self-esteem and feel worthy and confident in your own skin.
Testimonials
"Thanks, Aaron, we could feel the benefits of each couple counselling session, even in our first session. We had done lots of work with different psychologists individually and as a couple prior to our first session, but the work with you feels deeper and different, in a good way. Just by helping us to slow down during the session makes us more aware of our primary emotions."
“I was initially hesitant to commence as I have never undergone counseling and decided to take the leap of faith as I gathered that it could only help. WOW! I am so glad I did. Aaron was so much more than I could have ever imagined and assisted me in ways I never previously considered. Thank you so very much Aaron for helping me through a difficult time. 10/10”
“Unlike most other counselors I've seen before, Aaron gets right to the root of the issue straight away in a session and heals it at its core. With previous counselors I had found that I would simply be talking the hour away, week after week, using my well thought-out analyses of stressful situations in my life, but I would not ever really experience true deep healing or change. Aaron, however, stops me in my tracks while I use my old coping mechanisms to try and avoid my pain (i.e. over-thinking, which keeps me in my head and not in my heart) and he brings me back to the root issue which he has a way of identifying very skillfully. He then provides a safe environment and helps me to deal with it effectively right there and then. This has been very powerful for me and I have found that I leave sessions feeling like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders, and in the weeks to follow I find that I still experience the healing effects of each session.”
“Aaron is a truly talented psychotherapist and relationship counsellor who cares deeply for his clients. I recommend his services without hesitation. Thanks for taking our marriage from ‘good’ to ‘amazing’ Aaron, we are forever grateful!”
“I did not know what to expect when I started counselling but I'm glad to say that although the experience was very much out of my comfort zone, it has slowly transformed my internal emotional turmoil to one of much more peace and acceptance of myself and others.”
“My husband and I were very fortunate to see you … You (without a doubt in my mind) saved our marriage. Everything is wonderful currently … Eternally grateful. I truly mean every word. Very grateful to you”
“[The counselling process with Alive Counseling] showed me a way to unlock my inner self to be more relaxed in any situation. Give me a new lease on life. Looking at issues in a different way and handling them in a relaxed state. What got me was the emotions and feelings. This is what I needed. What I was looking for. Someone who could help me with these things.”
"Aaron was very straight forward and honest. Clear about the approach and consistent in helping us change our patterns. The greatest accomplishment through this counselling process is connecting with my partner on an emotional level."
"Through being heard and participating in different exercises I have a deeper awareness of myself, the issues I discussed and the relationships I am in. This is also having a flow on effect to others around me. I've noticed tangible changes in relational dynamics over these weeks as I've worked on things and set goals for action."
“[What I like about the way my counsellor works] Was able to bring out a lot of things about myself that I hadn’t realised. I did find counselling helpful and I thank Aaron for his time and advice.”
"You help me so much through the counselling sessions that have changed my negative view of counselling."
"Aaron is very patient and level headed ... What we gain through the couple counselling process with Alive Counselling was better awareness of the emotional cycle and triggers with my partner. What was most helpful about the counselling process was slowing the emotional reaction down to get to a calmer position ."
"I originally started seeing Aaron to help me through the grief of loosing someone very close to me but through our sessions Aaron tapped in to help reveal so much more about myself and I became more aware of why I was feeling such strong emotions and what I could do to acknowledge them and continue to function in a positive way."
“Thank you for the difference you’ve made to the life of our family. We are so blessed to have found you.”
"Aaron was one of the most insightful persons I have come across for a long time & has helped me understand myself a lot more."
"Through the counselling process, I felt better after months of depression ... thank you for your counselling service ... You were a big part of my healing journey. I thank God for you."
"I couldn't find the words ... Thank you so much for helping us throughout my family problem and obstacles ... not just our marital problems but more particularly to my son ... you're such a truly blessing to him."
“[What I gain from the counselling process with Alive Counseling] A greater awareness of my patterns of behaviour and how [these] may connect to my younger years. [The benefits or changes I noticed in myself] Greater grounded-ness for engaging with these aspects of myself I don't explore or talk about.”
“I am now able to be present in my everyday life whereas beforehand I was living in my head most of the time as a coping mechanism to my complex trauma. I am also able to deal with issues by myself now by using the tools Aaron has taught me, even after our individual sessions have ended. I am able to be there for myself and find acceptance, belonging and comfort within myself and also from the safe relationships I am now able to identify, pursue and cultivate. In my daily life I now feel like I am much more connected to myself and open to fulfilling connections with others than before.”
"Aaron helped my partner and I reconnect. Not only with each other but within ourselves. Really listening to each other and not just 'doing the angry, dysfunctional dance'. We received lots of practical tips to manage in times of stress."
“Aaron provided me an avenue to process multiple issues I was experiencing at the time and enabled me to better manage my situation. I am still using the approach and mindset as it works so well.”
“[The benefits or changes I have noticed in myself is a] better acceptance of who I am, less fearful of expressing my thoughts to others and less fearful of initiating, maintaining and deepening connection with others.”
"What we gain through the couple counselling process with Alive Counselling was greater insights into family of origins and the sources of [our] emotional pain. Stronger connection to partner."
"Thanks Aaron . . . of all the help I've sought I learned more from you in an hour than in years."
"Since we started sessions with you, I am so glad to see the positive changes it has had in our family interactions. ... Saying Thanks is not all enough Aaron but God will bless you."
“[The most helpful part of the counselling process] Insight to where a lot of my characteristics come from and why. Being reminded of what the basic needs of every human is.”
"Aaron has helped me deal with issues in a mature manner to see other people's point of view. He gave great examples which I understand and can put into real scenarios."
"Every week I learn something new about myself that I can use in my everyday life. Emotions have such an effect on our lives physically and mentally."
“[The benefits or changes I noticed in myself] Being able to label emotions and address them in the moment and being more mindful of my partners emotions.”
“[The benefits or changes I have noticed about myself are that] I'm more easy going, I'm relaxed, I'm looking at my whole life in a better way. Breaking the old habits wasn't easy but with the guidance and knowledge it's helped me immensely. It was much more than what I expected. I really took to his style of counselling and recommend it to anyone.”
"Aaron has a gift for untying the knots of situations that seem complex and pinpointing the core issues when someone is overwhelmed by details and anxiety. He's good at helping people to identify clear steps forward and put them into practice in a logical order . . . "
“We used to think the ’honeymoon phase’ is just the early experience of a relationship that will end, and did not realise it is possible to feel the same ‘honeymoon’ experience again. Through the counselling process, we are so excited that we can connect deeply like we did early in our relationship.”
“I have seen immense personal transformation in terms of no longer watching my life be ruled by my past complex trauma, but instead being able to live in the present and feel much more fully alive, empowered and fulfilled on a daily basis”
“[The most helpful part of the counselling process, is] the experience of expressing certain thoughts and feelings to someone without being judged and thus being able to make peace with them. Chair exercises seem to have quite a deep and lasting impact on me although I felt very awkward in the beginning.”
“[My partner] and I are doing well. We continue to use your strategies to slow things down ... We have also recommended you to friends of ours.”
“[What I like about the way my counsellor works] Very attentive. Great listener. Gentle, respectful, insightful. Prepared to challenge. Some good variation including role-play, information-giving and occasional 'homework'. Open to doing things differently, and really responding to my needs or concerns.”
" . . . He's also good at helping people become more aware of their emotions, so that they stop tolerating recurring negative patterns and face the root causes that are driving them. He is a sensitive, patient and caring listener, but he's also focused on reaching practical, effective solutions."
"The greatest accomplishment through this couple counselling process, was developing emotional vulnerability and being celebrated for that. What I like about Aaron is his excellent construction of a safe environment. Very educational process."
“Aaron is very open and understanding making sessions very easy by encouraging open conversation. Aaron strategically identifies, discusses and resolves points encountered in an easy-to-do meaningful way while aligning to the morals and standards. Christian values work for me, so Aaron then used terms and explanations aligned to me making everything so easily understandable.”
"Aaron has a very gentle nature and an innate gift of helping you understand why you feel the way you do in certain situations and understanding the reasons why. This has given me a greater self awareness and skills to help me when challenged with these strong emotions."
“[What I gain from the counselling process with Alive Counselling] It reminded me that there is a reason for everyone’s behaviour and to be more conscious and empathetic of that.”
“I like the fact that Aaron is very consistent in the way he behaves during each session, both face-to-face and online. His facial expression, the speed and tone of his voice and his body language are all aligned to give out a sense of genuine care and concern, openness and non-judgment.”
“I did have high expectations of Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT) as I had read great things about it, but I had no idea that it would have such a transformational effect on my life as a whole. One very important thing that I reminded myself of during the sometimes-painful journey of inner healing with Aaron is to Trust The Process! Aaron knows exactly what he is doing and it is more than worth it.”
"Aaron has helped me with my past trauma and underlying issues. He has shown me how to deal with grief and anger in a healthy way. He has counselled me for 13 months and I am so grateful that he is a part of my journey to recovery."
“[What I gain through the counselling process with Alive Counselling is] having a safe environment to make sense of my emotions, to understand where they are coming from, and to be self-compassionate in acknowledging and dealing with them to improve my relationship with myself and with others in a more balanced, consistent and genuine way.”
“The whole [counselling] process was seamless and very easy to start and a pleasure looking forward to the followup sessions. I did not know what to expect as this was my first counseling session and given the COVID epidemic, Aaron more than exceeded my expectations.”
"What I gained through the counselling process was a clearer understanding of the emotions I was feeling and why. The greatest accomplishment was my understanding of how I feel in certain situations. I am more aware and adjust my thinking."
“[The most helpful part of the counselling process] Good listening on Aaron's part. Aaron knowing when to slow down and explore more deeply. Gentle, but probing questions. being challenged to connect with feelings.”
“... Aaron is very understanding, accommodating and flexible with the timing and duration of the sessions, especially during the early stages of my counselling process when I was quite distressed ... All these things combined has helped build my trust in him and gave me the courage and confidence to continue my journey of personal growth through counselling sessions with him.”
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