Services
COUPLES: Are you both locked in negative interaction cycles?
We help couples improve their relationship intimacy by understanding the underlying attachment needs and emotional struggles. We also help couples enhance their current relationship from good to great, rebuild trust after affairs, prepare for a strong foundation through pre-marriage counselling, and help dating couples elevate their love into a more intimate relationship that lasts. The focus of our psychotherapy sessions is on the interaction cycles reducing the couple's distress, and increasing intimacy. We use Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT), because this evidence-based therapy has a 90% improvement rate and about 75% success rate. Research has confirmed that the skills learned in sessions continue to provide benefits even after the conclusion of counselling. While we deal with couples at different stages of their relationship issues, early intervention is the best option for building stronger bonds in a relationship. Research has shown that relationship issues get worse with time if left to fester.
INDIVIDUALS: Are you struggling with anger, anxiety, depression, grief, childhood trauma, relationship issues, or simply feeling 'stuck'?
When facing challenging life decisions and needing clarity to move forward, we can help you discover what's important to you and how you can get there. Even though we cannot change your past, we can help you heal from it. Through each session, we journey with you from a place of being “stuck” or held back by your emotions and past experience to pursue what you value most. We work with the roots of your anger and emotional struggles.
FAMILIES:
We work with families and adolescents to repair and strengthen attachment bonds, promoting interdependence that balances the need for relational connections and the adolescent's desire for autonomy. The focus of the psychotherapy is towards changing the negative patterns of interaction within the family rather than individual issues. Our goal is to strengthen the family by increasing experiential awareness of their relational interactions and provide a safe space for everyone in the family. Clients usually come with one adolescent as the identified person for psychotherapy, but we will work with the family, as a group, sub-groups, and individuals when it is helpful. Research has shown that there is an advantage to be gained if all those involved in the family context are included.
What to expect?
Based on research and experience, significant lasting change needs time. Depending on the complexity and seriousness of the issues, you may need: 5 to 15 sessions for individuals, 8 to 20 for couples or 10 to 20 for families. We normally review on the 5th session, and most clients can see the benefits by then.
Through each session, we journey with our clients from a place of being “stuck” or held back by their emotions and past traumatic experiences to pursue what they value most. It is exhilarating to see each of our clients being more confident and hopeful of their future after our counselling sessions.
NOT an emergency service.
For WA mental health emergencies, contact Mental Health Emergency Response Line: 1300 555 788 or Lifeline: 13 11 14.
Testimonials
"Thanks, Aaron, we could feel the benefits of each couple counselling session, even in our first session. We had done lots of work with different psychologists individually and as a couple prior to our first session, but the work with you feels deeper and different, in a good way. Just by helping us to slow down during the session makes us more aware of our primary emotions."
“I was initially hesitant to commence as I have never undergone counseling and decided to take the leap of faith as I gathered that it could only help. WOW! I am so glad I did. Aaron was so much more than I could have ever imagined and assisted me in ways I never previously considered. Thank you so very much Aaron for helping me through a difficult time. 10/10”
“Unlike most other counselors I've seen before, Aaron gets right to the root of the issue straight away in a session and heals it at its core. With previous counselors I had found that I would simply be talking the hour away, week after week, using my well thought-out analyses of stressful situations in my life, but I would not ever really experience true deep healing or change. Aaron, however, stops me in my tracks while I use my old coping mechanisms to try and avoid my pain (i.e. over-thinking, which keeps me in my head and not in my heart) and he brings me back to the root issue which he has a way of identifying very skillfully. He then provides a safe environment and helps me to deal with it effectively right there and then. This has been very powerful for me and I have found that I leave sessions feeling like a huge burden has been lifted off my shoulders, and in the weeks to follow I find that I still experience the healing effects of each session.”
“Aaron is a truly talented psychotherapist and relationship counsellor who cares deeply for his clients. I recommend his services without hesitation. Thanks for taking our marriage from ‘good’ to ‘amazing’ Aaron, we are forever grateful!”
“I did not know what to expect when I started counselling but I'm glad to say that although the experience was very much out of my comfort zone, it has slowly transformed my internal emotional turmoil to one of much more peace and acceptance of myself and others.”
“My husband and I were very fortunate to see you … You (without a doubt in my mind) saved our marriage. Everything is wonderful currently … Eternally grateful. I truly mean every word. Very grateful to you”
“[The counselling process with Alive Counseling] showed me a way to unlock my inner self to be more relaxed in any situation. Give me a new lease on life. Looking at issues in a different way and handling them in a relaxed state. What got me was the emotions and feelings. This is what I needed. What I was looking for. Someone who could help me with these things.”
"Aaron was very straight forward and honest. Clear about the approach and consistent in helping us change our patterns. The greatest accomplishment through this counselling process is connecting with my partner on an emotional level."
"Through being heard and participating in different exercises I have a deeper awareness of myself, the issues I discussed and the relationships I am in. This is also having a flow on effect to others around me. I've noticed tangible changes in relational dynamics over these weeks as I've worked on things and set goals for action."
“[What I like about the way my counsellor works] Was able to bring out a lot of things about myself that I hadn’t realised. I did find counselling helpful and I thank Aaron for his time and advice.”
"You help me so much through the counselling sessions that have changed my negative view of counselling."
"Aaron is very patient and level headed ... What we gain through the couple counselling process with Alive Counselling was better awareness of the emotional cycle and triggers with my partner. What was most helpful about the counselling process was slowing the emotional reaction down to get to a calmer position ."
"I originally started seeing Aaron to help me through the grief of loosing someone very close to me but through our sessions Aaron tapped in to help reveal so much more about myself and I became more aware of why I was feeling such strong emotions and what I could do to acknowledge them and continue to function in a positive way."
“Thank you for the difference you’ve made to the life of our family. We are so blessed to have found you.”
"Aaron was one of the most insightful persons I have come across for a long time & has helped me understand myself a lot more."
"Through the counselling process, I felt better after months of depression ... thank you for your counselling service ... You were a big part of my healing journey. I thank God for you."
"I couldn't find the words ... Thank you so much for helping us throughout my family problem and obstacles ... not just our marital problems but more particularly to my son ... you're such a truly blessing to him."
“[What I gain from the counselling process with Alive Counseling] A greater awareness of my patterns of behaviour and how [these] may connect to my younger years. [The benefits or changes I noticed in myself] Greater grounded-ness for engaging with these aspects of myself I don't explore or talk about.”
“I am now able to be present in my everyday life whereas beforehand I was living in my head most of the time as a coping mechanism to my complex trauma. I am also able to deal with issues by myself now by using the tools Aaron has taught me, even after our individual sessions have ended. I am able to be there for myself and find acceptance, belonging and comfort within myself and also from the safe relationships I am now able to identify, pursue and cultivate. In my daily life I now feel like I am much more connected to myself and open to fulfilling connections with others than before.”
"Aaron helped my partner and I reconnect. Not only with each other but within ourselves. Really listening to each other and not just 'doing the angry, dysfunctional dance'. We received lots of practical tips to manage in times of stress."
“Aaron provided me an avenue to process multiple issues I was experiencing at the time and enabled me to better manage my situation. I am still using the approach and mindset as it works so well.”
“[The benefits or changes I have noticed in myself is a] better acceptance of who I am, less fearful of expressing my thoughts to others and less fearful of initiating, maintaining and deepening connection with others.”
"What we gain through the couple counselling process with Alive Counselling was greater insights into family of origins and the sources of [our] emotional pain. Stronger connection to partner."
"Thanks Aaron . . . of all the help I've sought I learned more from you in an hour than in years."
"Since we started sessions with you, I am so glad to see the positive changes it has had in our family interactions. ... Saying Thanks is not all enough Aaron but God will bless you."
“[The most helpful part of the counselling process] Insight to where a lot of my characteristics come from and why. Being reminded of what the basic needs of every human is.”
"Aaron has helped me deal with issues in a mature manner to see other people's point of view. He gave great examples which I understand and can put into real scenarios."
"Every week I learn something new about myself that I can use in my everyday life. Emotions have such an effect on our lives physically and mentally."
“[The benefits or changes I noticed in myself] Being able to label emotions and address them in the moment and being more mindful of my partners emotions.”
“[The benefits or changes I have noticed about myself are that] I'm more easy going, I'm relaxed, I'm looking at my whole life in a better way. Breaking the old habits wasn't easy but with the guidance and knowledge it's helped me immensely. It was much more than what I expected. I really took to his style of counselling and recommend it to anyone.”
"Aaron has a gift for untying the knots of situations that seem complex and pinpointing the core issues when someone is overwhelmed by details and anxiety. He's good at helping people to identify clear steps forward and put them into practice in a logical order . . . "
“We used to think the ’honeymoon phase’ is just the early experience of a relationship that will end, and did not realise it is possible to feel the same ‘honeymoon’ experience again. Through the counselling process, we are so excited that we can connect deeply like we did early in our relationship.”
“I have seen immense personal transformation in terms of no longer watching my life be ruled by my past complex trauma, but instead being able to live in the present and feel much more fully alive, empowered and fulfilled on a daily basis”
“[The most helpful part of the counselling process, is] the experience of expressing certain thoughts and feelings to someone without being judged and thus being able to make peace with them. Chair exercises seem to have quite a deep and lasting impact on me although I felt very awkward in the beginning.”
“[My partner] and I are doing well. We continue to use your strategies to slow things down ... We have also recommended you to friends of ours.”
“[What I like about the way my counsellor works] Very attentive. Great listener. Gentle, respectful, insightful. Prepared to challenge. Some good variation including role-play, information-giving and occasional 'homework'. Open to doing things differently, and really responding to my needs or concerns.”
" . . . He's also good at helping people become more aware of their emotions, so that they stop tolerating recurring negative patterns and face the root causes that are driving them. He is a sensitive, patient and caring listener, but he's also focused on reaching practical, effective solutions."
"The greatest accomplishment through this couple counselling process, was developing emotional vulnerability and being celebrated for that. What I like about Aaron is his excellent construction of a safe environment. Very educational process."
“Aaron is very open and understanding making sessions very easy by encouraging open conversation. Aaron strategically identifies, discusses and resolves points encountered in an easy-to-do meaningful way while aligning to the morals and standards. Christian values work for me, so Aaron then used terms and explanations aligned to me making everything so easily understandable.”
"Aaron has a very gentle nature and an innate gift of helping you understand why you feel the way you do in certain situations and understanding the reasons why. This has given me a greater self awareness and skills to help me when challenged with these strong emotions."
“[What I gain from the counselling process with Alive Counselling] It reminded me that there is a reason for everyone’s behaviour and to be more conscious and empathetic of that.”
“I like the fact that Aaron is very consistent in the way he behaves during each session, both face-to-face and online. His facial expression, the speed and tone of his voice and his body language are all aligned to give out a sense of genuine care and concern, openness and non-judgment.”
“I did have high expectations of Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT) as I had read great things about it, but I had no idea that it would have such a transformational effect on my life as a whole. One very important thing that I reminded myself of during the sometimes-painful journey of inner healing with Aaron is to Trust The Process! Aaron knows exactly what he is doing and it is more than worth it.”
"Aaron has helped me with my past trauma and underlying issues. He has shown me how to deal with grief and anger in a healthy way. He has counselled me for 13 months and I am so grateful that he is a part of my journey to recovery."
“[What I gain through the counselling process with Alive Counselling is] having a safe environment to make sense of my emotions, to understand where they are coming from, and to be self-compassionate in acknowledging and dealing with them to improve my relationship with myself and with others in a more balanced, consistent and genuine way.”
“The whole [counselling] process was seamless and very easy to start and a pleasure looking forward to the followup sessions. I did not know what to expect as this was my first counseling session and given the COVID epidemic, Aaron more than exceeded my expectations.”
"What I gained through the counselling process was a clearer understanding of the emotions I was feeling and why. The greatest accomplishment was my understanding of how I feel in certain situations. I am more aware and adjust my thinking."
“[The most helpful part of the counselling process] Good listening on Aaron's part. Aaron knowing when to slow down and explore more deeply. Gentle, but probing questions. being challenged to connect with feelings.”
“... Aaron is very understanding, accommodating and flexible with the timing and duration of the sessions, especially during the early stages of my counselling process when I was quite distressed ... All these things combined has helped build my trust in him and gave me the courage and confidence to continue my journey of personal growth through counselling sessions with him.”
